LGBTQIA+ COSAs

As someone who is part of the LGBTQIA2S+ community and has been affected by compulsive sexual behavior, you may feel isolated and alone in your experiences. You can find healing, comfort, and hope in COSA with others who share your stories. We welcome you to our fellowship.

What is COSA?
COSA is an anonymous Twelve Step recovery program for spiritual development, regardless of your religious or philosophical beliefs.

Who can come to COSA?
As our Diversity Statement says: “People of any gender, race, background, religion, economic status, sexual orientation or identity, as well as members who may also belong to other Twelve Step programs or support groups, are welcome.” According to Tradition Three: the only requirement for COSA membership is that our lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior.

What next?
There are COSA meetings, both online and in-person.

In addition, there is a closed COSA meeting for anyone who identifies as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, gender non-conforming, queer or questioning, intersex, asexual, pansexual, or Two Spirit and has been affected by compulsive sexual behavior.

A “closed meeting” means that only those who identify as having been affected by compulsive sexual behavior and as LGBTQIA2S+ can attend.  If you are new to COSA and identify, you can join this meeting anytime. Have questions? Please email queercosa@gmail.com.

LGBTQIA2S+ COSA meeting
Every Wednesday, 5:30 p.m. – 6:30 p.m. Pacific Time
Permanently online:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/87492517975
Meeting ID: 874 9251 7975
Email queercosa@gmail.com for the meeting password.

You may qualify for COSA if:

  • Your partner has given you a sexually transmitted disease
  • You are grappling with a spouse, partner, or parent’s infidelity
  • You are a survivor of sexual abuse or sexual assault
  • You are affected by another person’s compulsive use of pornography
  • You are a parent of a child who acts out sexually
  • You are an adult child of sex addicts
  • You are dealing with sexual harassment or surveillance
  • You feel pressured into sexual behaviors you do not feel comfortable with
  • Someone else’s sexual behavior is causing you pain
  • Your life has been affected by compulsive sexual behavior in other ways

Only you get to determine whether or not you belong in COSA. We suggest you try six meetings before you decide if the COSA program is for you.

Want to know more?
Please check out our Newcomer FAQ and a list of other COSA meetings online and near you.